Come as You Are: The Surprising New Science that Will Transform Your Sex Life
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Researchers have spent the last decade trying to develop a “pink pill” for women to function like Viagra does for men. So where is it? Well, for reasons this book makes crystal clear, that pill will never be the answer—but as a result of the research that’s gone into it, scientists in the last few years have learned more about how women’s sexuality works than we ever thought possible, and Come as You Are explains it all.
The first lesson in this essential, transformative book by Dr. Emily Nagoski is that every woman has her own unique sexuality, like a fingerprint, and that women vary more than men in our anatomy, our sexual response mechanisms, and the way our bodies respond to the sexual world. So we never need to judge ourselves based on others’ experiences. Because women vary, and that’s normal.
Second lesson: sex happens in a context. And all the complications of everyday life influence the context surrounding a woman’s arousal, desire, and orgasm.
Cutting-edge research across multiple disciplines tells us that the most important factor for women in creating and sustaining a fulfilling sex life, is not what you do in bed or how you do it, but how you feel about it. Which means that stress, mood, trust, and body image are not peripheral factors in a woman’s sexual wellbeing; they are central to it. Once you understand these factors, and how to influence them, you can create for yourself better sex and more profound pleasure than you ever thought possible.
And Emily Nagoski can prove it.
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Das Hauptthema ist natürlich die Aufklärung über den Sex aus der Perspektive der Frauen. Aber es wird auch Grundlegendes und Dazugehöriges, also das drumherum, mit erklärt. Es ist einfach die perfekte Aufklärung; auch für Männer absolut lohnenswert! Es sollte als Biologie Lektüre in Schulen gelesen werden. Es ist auch von der Sprachumsetzung einfach zu verstehen. Die Autorin bringt einfach die wichtigsten Punkte zu Wort, die vorher immer nur so ein „Gefühl“ waren. Äußerst Empfehlenswert!
Stopped reading at 23% - I really wanted to like this book and learn from it. But the beginning didn't bring any aha-moments for me and combined with the constant cut off with 'we'll get deeper into that in chapter x, y or z' made me tired of waiting for the contents she promised to finally start... and so I lost interest. Maybe it would have helped to shorten all the build up and just get right into it.
Healing and therapeutic. Added to my list of facts I am gonna tell people about on the next party! Some of the things in the book that made me go ":-O" while reading: 1. No one really knows what the hymen is for and yet it is one of the most discussed body parts ??? 2. The female orgasm has no evolutionary function (and yet is so much fun) 3. Why sex with an abuser is 50 times better and what's wrong with that 4. Monogamy is NOT the problem It is amazing how she touches so many subjects in the book without it getting too big or too much. Nagoski manages to do the balancing act and writes both scientifically and reader-friendly. And, boy, is there a lot of myths I agreed on and did not know about. I liked that she also added an appendix with the science and papers she used for the books which makes it a whole lot more approachable. The one thing I did have to get used to was her writing style as it seemed to my kind of over the top but I guess that comes with writing a science book for a public audience. She has a talent for inventing funny allegories or examples that carry her message! It is practical. It is helpful. It teaches you how to be gentle with yourself. (The fact that she repeated that we are all normal and all beautiful annoyed me in the beginning and then - when I allowed it - made me tear up everytime). This aspect was my favorite part about the book because she got into big detail about how emotions and context work (in relationships and sexual relationships) and I felt like I just attended a very good therapy session with my therapist. This is definitely a book I'd recommend to all of my friends.
Description
Researchers have spent the last decade trying to develop a “pink pill” for women to function like Viagra does for men. So where is it? Well, for reasons this book makes crystal clear, that pill will never be the answer—but as a result of the research that’s gone into it, scientists in the last few years have learned more about how women’s sexuality works than we ever thought possible, and Come as You Are explains it all.
The first lesson in this essential, transformative book by Dr. Emily Nagoski is that every woman has her own unique sexuality, like a fingerprint, and that women vary more than men in our anatomy, our sexual response mechanisms, and the way our bodies respond to the sexual world. So we never need to judge ourselves based on others’ experiences. Because women vary, and that’s normal.
Second lesson: sex happens in a context. And all the complications of everyday life influence the context surrounding a woman’s arousal, desire, and orgasm.
Cutting-edge research across multiple disciplines tells us that the most important factor for women in creating and sustaining a fulfilling sex life, is not what you do in bed or how you do it, but how you feel about it. Which means that stress, mood, trust, and body image are not peripheral factors in a woman’s sexual wellbeing; they are central to it. Once you understand these factors, and how to influence them, you can create for yourself better sex and more profound pleasure than you ever thought possible.
And Emily Nagoski can prove it.
Book Information
Posts
BITTE LESEN!
Das Hauptthema ist natürlich die Aufklärung über den Sex aus der Perspektive der Frauen. Aber es wird auch Grundlegendes und Dazugehöriges, also das drumherum, mit erklärt. Es ist einfach die perfekte Aufklärung; auch für Männer absolut lohnenswert! Es sollte als Biologie Lektüre in Schulen gelesen werden. Es ist auch von der Sprachumsetzung einfach zu verstehen. Die Autorin bringt einfach die wichtigsten Punkte zu Wort, die vorher immer nur so ein „Gefühl“ waren. Äußerst Empfehlenswert!
Stopped reading at 23% - I really wanted to like this book and learn from it. But the beginning didn't bring any aha-moments for me and combined with the constant cut off with 'we'll get deeper into that in chapter x, y or z' made me tired of waiting for the contents she promised to finally start... and so I lost interest. Maybe it would have helped to shorten all the build up and just get right into it.
Healing and therapeutic. Added to my list of facts I am gonna tell people about on the next party! Some of the things in the book that made me go ":-O" while reading: 1. No one really knows what the hymen is for and yet it is one of the most discussed body parts ??? 2. The female orgasm has no evolutionary function (and yet is so much fun) 3. Why sex with an abuser is 50 times better and what's wrong with that 4. Monogamy is NOT the problem It is amazing how she touches so many subjects in the book without it getting too big or too much. Nagoski manages to do the balancing act and writes both scientifically and reader-friendly. And, boy, is there a lot of myths I agreed on and did not know about. I liked that she also added an appendix with the science and papers she used for the books which makes it a whole lot more approachable. The one thing I did have to get used to was her writing style as it seemed to my kind of over the top but I guess that comes with writing a science book for a public audience. She has a talent for inventing funny allegories or examples that carry her message! It is practical. It is helpful. It teaches you how to be gentle with yourself. (The fact that she repeated that we are all normal and all beautiful annoyed me in the beginning and then - when I allowed it - made me tear up everytime). This aspect was my favorite part about the book because she got into big detail about how emotions and context work (in relationships and sexual relationships) and I felt like I just attended a very good therapy session with my therapist. This is definitely a book I'd recommend to all of my friends.