This book, wow. How do I even explain this. It’s just so… human. So mundane. Reading this was like listening to a friend talk about her life. The way the emotions were put into words was just right, not too simple, not too swollen. I even hate saying it, but it was simply just real. As someone who is incredibly close with her mom, it was interesting to see this kind of dynamic play out. Overall, while reading it, I didn’t even realise how much I enjoyed this book. But after finishing it just now I’m like… and why can’t I keep reading this forever every evening?

Eine wirklich interessanter, autobiografischer Roman aus Sicht einer koreanisch-amerikanischen Tochter, die ihre Mutter an den Krebs verliert. Besonders gut hat mir die Reflexion über die Vergangenheit, das gegenseitige Verhältnis und welche Rolle die koreanische Kultur und die Wurzeln dabei spielen. In einigen Situationen hätte ich gerne noch mehr Hintergründe oder mehr Vorgeschichte erfahren.

“Save your tears for when your mother dies.” Now that was a tear-jerker. A very emotional read for sure. If you've lost any relatives to cancer, I can see this book really connecting. It's basically the author going through the five stages of grief, reminiscing about her tumultuous relationship with her mother and her anger/regret about not being able to finally get to know her at a personal level. “I've just never met someone like you," - that really hit the nail on the head and pretty much encapsulates what I imagine a lot of parents feel when they're trying to understand and simultaneously guide their kids that are turning out to not be carbon-copies of the people who raised them. Very poignant. Zauner's mom had a lot of great quotes. Overall, really enjoyed this, and am gonna check out some of Zauner's music now since I'm curious.

I reqllw enjoyed the story. It was a very unusual memoir and the relationship between Michelle and her mother was extraordinary portraied and the ambivalence really conveyed great. I also really enjoyed the dealing with beauty standards.I really recommend the audiobook, told by the author herself. 

Dieses Memoir war für mich oft ein Spiegelvorhalten. Ein Sehen, was ich selbst immer so gemacht habe, um meiner Mutter zu gefallen - Menschen zu gefallen. Harter Tobak, wenn Mensch gerade an keinem guten Ort ist und eine gute Lektion für Menschen, die ihren Wert über andere definieren. 3.5 / 5 !

I’ve read this book in the weeks after my own mother had died from cancer. Unlike Michelle’s mom, my mothers death came surprisingly and unexpected. Robbing me of time to say goodbye and process what would happen when a loved one dies. This book helped me grief, rethink my relationship with my mother and my own journey as a mom. I’ve cried and I’ve laughed and most of all I’ve been craving Korean food heavily throughout the book.

Dieses Memoir war für mich oft ein Spiegelvorhalten. Ein Sehen, was ich selbst immer so gemacht habe, um meiner Mutter zu gefallen - Menschen zu gefallen. Harter Tobak, wenn Mensch gerade an keinem guten Ort ist und eine gute Lektion für Menschen, die ihren Wert über andere definieren. 3.5 / 5 !